In business terminology, “Collaboration” means individuals working together towards a common goal, outcome, or mission, ultimately for the sake of organizational effectiveness. While the measure of effectiveness likely differs within a family, the concept essentially remains the same.
Before delving into this crucial building block of a “Well-Functioning Family,” we’d like to share a vital point regarding this topic. In English, the word “collaboration” has two similar terms, both of which also exist in Hungarian but are rarely used, and it’s important to clarify the subtle differences between them. When members of a group collaborate, it involves cooperation based on trust, a shared vision and values, a solid foundation, and long-term common goals, with each member taking responsibility for their actions and mistakes. On the other hand, in cooperation, groups operate on a basis of respect, with members depending on each other and forming loose, short-term alliances; there is no shared vision or value system, and while ideas are shared, cooperation is mainly out of duty. In both cases, we expect the same result, but collaboration carries a nuanced shade of a shared identity that transcends individuality. This shared identity is considered ideal for the functioning of a family in the long run, and when we use the word “collaboration” in Hungarian, we understand it in this context.
As discussed in our article about “The Well-Functioning Family,” we primarily address household chores in the topic of Collaboration because we believe children can learn a great deal about collaboration through this avenue. Additionally, sharing tasks among family members not only teaches them how to take care of themselves, their homes, and their families, but also fosters essential relationship skills such as clear communication, negotiation/agreement, and teamwork. Moreover, sharing household responsibilities helps reduce stress levels in families by completing tasks sooner, allowing freed-up time for family members to spend together or relax.
We have compiled some actionable advice to achieve less frustration, higher motivation, and greater security:
- Assign age-appropriate tasks! You can find age-grouped suggestions in the articles.
- Involve every child! Even the youngest ones can assist with simple tasks, perhaps with the help of an adult or an older sibling. This communicates to them that their contribution is just as important.
- Assign tasks that serve the entire family! This fosters a sense of responsibility.
- Allocate time for training! Perform tasks together until the child can do them independently. Important information can be found in our article on task-sharing.
- Hold family discussions about tasks and their importance! Emphasize that the contribution of every family member is essential to the household functioning. Children aged 6 and above can choose tasks according to their preference, boosting their motivation. However, ensure that responsibilities are rotated periodically.
- Set clear expectations and deadlines! It’s important that every participant knows what to do, how often, and when.
- Monitor and provide feedback! Regular and constructive feedback sustains motivation and supports children in refining their knowledge and skills. The goal of feedback should be learning, and it’s okay if it takes time.
- Celebrate successes! Encourage and reward your child’s achievements.
We believe that among various factors, sharing responsibilities is one of the simplest ways to lead a balanced family life in the long run.
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