In parenting perhaps one of the greatest challenges is learning to pick our battles. Often, it feels like there's so much to address: not picking up after themselves, leaving toys, clothes, and books scattered around; talking back, arguing, throwing tantrums; not studying enough, just glued to screens; not leaving their room; unable to play alone; not to mention not being ready on time, or us freeking out over their choice of clothes for departure. It's probably clear to everyone that targeting everything won't lead to much success, firstly because it's impossible to focus on so many things at once, and secondly because it will generate significant resistance. But then how do we prioritize, because choosing our battles is essentially what it's about. 

Some useful tricks for this: 

• Overarching Goals: Try to think about what generates all the smaller problems and how to handle them as a whole. For teenagers, for example, not studying enough / not leaving their room / not knowing what they want can often be traced back to excessive screen time, so addressing that might be a broader goal that will have an impact on other areas too.