Nobody enjoys conflicts around them, but no matter how hard we try to avoid them, they are a part of life for both children and adults. While conflicts are unpleasant, they don't necessarily have to be seen as catastrophes. In fact, many times conflicts push forward what has long awaited resolution. Regardless, or perhaps because of this, it is crucial that our children understand how to resolve their conflicts and how to process the often intense emotional reactions that arise in such situations. We believe that every family is unique and special, but in many ways, they are also similar. We all have deep feelings, disagreements, needs; sometimes we misunderstand each other or draw wrong conclusions. Occasional conflicts are present in every family. However, persistent conflicts can be significant sources of stress and can have a destructive impact on relationships. The following guide provides a useful toolkit for any family that values resolving their conflicts.

Engage with Emotions!

As mentioned in our other articles on family relationships, the ability to express emotions is crucial in establishing and maintaining healthy relationships. This is no different when it comes to handling conflicts, as often the lack of tools to express and manage the intense emotions typical of such situations can hinder finding a solution. Therefore, before starting to investigate the cause of the conflict, it is essential for everyone involved to emotionally reach a state where they can think rationally and clearly; otherwise, the situation might escalate and worsen. Adults can help children identify their emotions, and visual aids (such as an emotion thermometer) can be useful for this purpose. Remember, addressing emotions is the first step; without clarity on them, finding a solution can be difficult or even impossible.

Reflect!